Paisley Raye Crystal Chapman

Family Rule: We Take Care of Each Other

A Family RulePaisley Raye Crystal Chapman

I work hard to teach my children to be kind and to take care of one another. It’s our number one family rule. They are almost 4 and 6, and know it’s their job to always make sure the other is okay. We take care of each other because that’s what family does. But it goes further than that. If you see someone hurt, you always run for help. You don’t ask questions, you don’t worry about who it is, you just run and get help, because that’s what we do.
It’s important to instill this value into children young because they are our future, and we need to be teaching kindness and compassion. Our world isn’t always pretty and to see a change, you need to be part of the change. Things like using manners, holding doors and being aware enough to include others are seeming like a lost art. Our children deserve to see those things role modeled for them. After all, when you know better, you do better. And my goal is for my children to always do better.

And Then it Happened

Earlier this week, I was at a vendor event with my two children that took place outdoors and backed up against a fenced in school playground – glorious, right? Before sending them off to play, I said “Xavier, take care of your sister. Scarlett, take care of your brother. Go have fun!”
It was amazing. The sun was shining and I was able to do my thing while knowing my children were safe and having fun….until I heard that dreaded sound of my daughter screaming. I wasn’t even looking and couldn’t see who the child was, but I knew. I knew that was the sound of my child, and more specifically, I knew it was my daughter. As I started to run, I saw my son racing towards me. I didn’t stop to ask what happened, I just ran by him. But it didn’t matter because he followed our family rule and all I needed to see was him running towards me to solidify something was wrong.
My baby girl’s knee was stuck in between two metal bars and I couldn’t get it out. Just as I started to panic because her screams were only getting louder and she was crying hysterically, I noticed there were at least 4 other adults that instinctively followed behind me the second they saw me start to run. The instant relief I felt when I saw others were there to help without me having to ask is indescribable. Thankfully, a man was able to pull on the metal bar just enough for me to pull her knee out and she wasn’t seriously injured. I am so thankful I wasn’t alone because I don’t know how I would have done it.

A Heartfelt Lesson Learned

I cannot begin to count the number of times I’ve ran to help someone else. Because that’s what we do. It’s what I was taught and what my husband was taught. You always help. But thankfully, I’ve never been in need of being on the receiving end of that help. Our society is fast and ever moving. We’re always late and have forty things left on our to-do list, and sometimes manners and small courtesies are left by the wayside. But you know what? When it matters and someone is in need, those same people will move and help.

If I learned anything from this experience, it’s that we are never alone. It might feel like you’re surrounded by people with zero manners or awareness to those around them, but people are good, and they will help when you need it. I learned far more homes teach these same values to their children and if we look beyond the news, you’ll see the good outweighs the bad.

To the man (Davy) that rescued my daughter – thank you again. But also thank you for proving this isn’t a life lesson that’s only being taught in my home. Thank you for showing your growing family that you always have compassion for others and you run for help when someone is in need. After my daughter had calmed, we walked over to the man to thank him. His response was “when you see a mama running, you follow her and don’t ask questions.” It’s not just mama’s thought. It goes further than that. If you see someone hurt, you always run for help. You don’t ask questions, you don’t worry about who it is, you just run for help, because that’s what we do.

Do You Have Family Rules?

I’d love to hear what your family rules are! Every opportunity to learn how others do things is a learning opportunity, and I enjoy bringing new thoughts to our home. Please comment here or hop on over to my Facebook community and share your thoughts! If you’d like to learn more about our new friends, you can find Davy and his wife, Toi at Fittastic Bodies.



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